What’s so wrong with kissing a girl and liking it?

Rushing home to my beloved Rosie the other day I had the unmitigated joy of spending three hours on a train from Cork to Dublin. While sitting there I had the pleasure of listening to a pair of young lesbians bitching at extreme length about how Katy Perry’s best known song “I Kissed a Girl” was despicable in how it portrayed feminine same-sex relationships.

Now I too am a lesbian. I love the girlies and to be perfectly frank I don’t care if they’re bisexual or dyke so long as they want my cute, shapely arse, oh and heart as well of course. And being lesbian I just don’t get what all the bollocks surrounding this song is about.

She’s singing about being at a party, getting very drunk and snogging a girl she fancies. Correct me if I’m wrong but don’t a large number of bi-women discover that they love the ladies in a largely similar manner?

Actually I have known a few lesbians for that matter who discovered an abiding love for feminine parts in this way.

Yes at some stage in the song she wonders if her boyfriend will mind. But again so what? She kissed someone while drunk enough that to judge by the video at least she was hallucinating. She doesn’t dismiss what’s happened between her and the one with the luscious kissable lips because she has a boy. Nor has she been engaging in the trapping of an unsuspecting girl for a torrid three-way, though perhaps the girl may have actually gone for that.

So I again ask what’s the problem with this song?

Well after a lot of deep thought I think I know what the problem actually is. Some people don’t like to admit that they were at any stage unsure about their sexuality. “Oh I always knew I was *insert sexuality*.” This song is about someone exploring hers and being happily surprised by the results. So what do I think of it all? I love this song. It portrays female to female attraction as something both fun and positive, it’s bouncy, enjoyable and Katy Perry is deliciousness wrapped in hotness. So sod the begrudgers.

3 Comments to “What’s so wrong with kissing a girl and liking it?”

  1. This same topic (or rather, this same song) actually came up in your house last month. Not quite the same angle you take on it here, but another aspect – that the song encourages straight women to kiss solely as a means of attracting heterosexual male interest and this is a Bad Thing because it plays into the lesbians = porn misconception. And we all know how annoying that misconception is. Oh BOY, do we know how annoying that misconception is!

    I tried to say that nonetheless, consenting adults, etcetera, and got smacked down for it, so I shut up. (Not out of pique, but because I suck at debating – you can call me many things, but “articulate under pressure” isn’t one of ’em.)

    Anywhere. What I meant then was:

    1. Yes. Men thinking it’s okay to ask two girls for the threesome, or okay to openly ogle, or express their creepy enthusiasm in any other way, solely because those women display interest in each other is a world of Not Okay. Also, creepy.

    2. It would be more convenient for me, and lots of other girls-who-like-girls, if nobody ever received the impression that ogling is an okay thing to do, and hence if nobody ever gave the impression that it’s an okay thing to do, BUT –

    3. It doesn’t feel right to expect others’ sexual behaviour to consult my convenience, and anyway –

    4. If and when Pervy McCreepface gets pervy, it’s his fault and his responsibility. He doesn’t get to blame those other straight chicks who made him think it was okay. It follows that I don’t get to blame them either.

    Sheesh. How soapboxy – and only tangentially relevant to your post. Sorry!

  2. Agree totally with you on that Char. That particular type of pseudo-bisexuality is probably the single most annoying thing that straight women do (as far as I’m concerned anyway).

    Though it leads to another interesting tangent…how many of those girls suddenly discover that they kissed a girl and they liked it, A LOT!

    • You have a point. I remember way back in the Cretacious era having an inkling that maybe possibly I might like the girls a wee bit more than all the other straight girls did. But it wasn’t until one somewhat tipsy evening that I finally managed to test my hypothesis. And well, after that it was merely a matter of replicating my findings 😉
      But yes. I, for one, have quite a lot to thank for misbehaving and booze!

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